Party of One: Things to Do Alone, But With Others

So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you. (Ro 12:1-3 MSG)

You may or may not marry someday, but in either case, don’t waste this time in your life. Think of some things that time and circumstance won’t allow after you marry Mr. or Mrs. Right, and do them now. It will make you a more well-rounded and interesting person, too. Use your imagination. And try to enjoy yourself even if it kills you.

  • Take a class strictly because you’re interested in the topic and want to learn something new.
  • Join a sports league (softball, bowling, golf or whatever you enjoy). It’ll be good exercise, too.
  • Be a mentor. What do you know a lot about? What do you do well? Teach it to someone else.
  • Join a work/political/charity-related organization, one that incites your passion and where you can be of good use.
  • Take a long, quiet walk and enjoy the sight, smell, sound, and feel of God’s creation. I know it sounds simple, but it clears the head and soothes the spirit.
  • Browse the shelves at your local bookstore/café and sit and read and sip coffee. Try really hard not to look up every few minutes afraid you’ll miss seeing a single person walking by just waiting to catch your eye. [Yeah, you know who I’m talking to.]
  • Take a mission trip. Now that’s an adventure. You’ll feel much less inclined to complain when you get home.
  • If the mission trip is not for you, offer to baby-sit for a married couple that is mission-minded, but homebound.  You might find the mission trip easier next time around.
  • Volunteer to be a Big Sister or Big Brother or an advocate for the elderly. When you’re helping others and giving of yourself, you don’t have time to plan your next pity party.
  • Go to a matinee and eat buttered popcorn.
  • Join a writers’ workshop or artists’ guild. Be creative!
  • Take one of those classes at the nearest home improvement store, then tackle a home improvement project.
  • Do a good deed today for someone– anonymously. Don’t tell anyone else either.
  • Call those well-meaning married-with-children people who feel sorry for you and keep giving you advice. Before you hang up, say. “Well, I’ve got to go now. I’m going to soak in a nice hot bath, read a good book and then take a nap.” [Naw, just kidding. I would never do that to my friends. I only did it to my grown kids. :)]

If you want to be really happy, give yourself to whatever you are called to do.

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